tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-88452355123393607122024-03-13T23:18:11.068+05:00The Emotional Lava !!My blog is all about those silent bombs in my mind ready to explode;
the grievances in ma heart that are about to erupt;
and the venom that will flow in my words when I speak your heart and mind here.
Yessss,
U R at the right place
**** AM the TICKING MENTAL BOMB!****CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.comBlogger70125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-37738788288690665862018-11-28T01:52:00.000+05:002018-11-28T01:52:01.297+05:00Lawfully Positive <span style="font-size: x-small;"> I HAVE OBSERVED….</span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;">I have observed a lot the underlying cause of tensed in-laws relations. And I have come to the conclusion that the single issue in our lives these days is that we do not let people choose freely. This means we try to impose our will on people. This thing has been put in our minds since birth. If we look closely then most women were not granted the power to choose. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"> Let me give you an example. Imagine our mother-in-law knew how to drive a car . She could have gone to the market to do grocery or picked up our child from school. This would have been a very convenient thing for a working mother. She would have brought money to the table, pursued her interests while catering to the small wishes of her mother-in-law. A mother-in-law who is physically and mentally fit, full of life and positivity can give a lot to her daughter in law. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;">Now what happens actually is that most mothers have sacrificed their will during their stay with in laws. They were used to obliging to every instruction from not only her husband but his parents as well. This sacrifice is so deeply embedded in her mind that she takes pride in it. Eventually she projects this behaviour on to her daughter in law.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"> Instead of rectifying the sacrifices she made in the name of being an obedient DIL she follows a pattern and gives example of her sacrifice as something superb and positive. Thus continuing the suppressive cycle. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;">The age when a woman needs to choose her own lifestyle, have the home budget in her hands, choose how to decorate her bedroom, living room drawing room; decide what should be cooked ,how she wants to educate her children, which area her family should live in, constitute all the things that a woman innately desires. Unfortunately all these things that she was not granted in her ripe days when she was in her 20s even till middle age, she snatches from her daughter in law too. We need to break this pattern and give every woman the freedom to decide when her age is right. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"> This would be translated into great positivity and then transfer into the next generation where a satisfied mother in law would help her DIL to accomplish her own dreams because she would have gotten those things when it was her age. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"> I hope my analysis will clear a lot of relationship issues in future and all women reading my article would try to give out positive Vibes and a lot of space to the woman with whom they live under one roof. It's time that we give each other wish to perform freely.</span><br />
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CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-84392663650531461082016-12-05T00:01:00.000+05:002016-12-05T00:01:44.290+05:00Hey everyone !<br />
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I m finally back after 3 years. It was a tremendous journey with the always-happening Oriflame. I am at Director designation now. Yes!.. AlhumduLiLlah. <br />
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CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-4749731012470660282014-01-30T12:30:00.000+05:002014-01-30T12:30:02.109+05:00Are you a jealous woman?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Have u been in a relationship n suddenly became utterly possessive about your man and then decided to act totally like the ‘bitchy’ woman u never thought u would be? And to top it all off he suddenly started showing more interest in whatever absorbed more of his time and ignited your jealousy even more. Right?<br />
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NO it cannot be just another woman. It can be his male friends, his favorite sports, and even a car!! Anything that seems to consume his interest more than u tends to spark off jealousy in you. Why r we women like this? Is there a way out of it? I know I know.. 90% of u reading this would be like “ I dun care a damn. I’m not jealous!” Ok if that is not the case would u then let your special someone go out alone with an (female) old school mate or to chat wid some colleague online while ignoring u? Tell me only if it Has happened with u…dun give me predictions !! </div>
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The problem with us women is that <a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2012/02/enjoy-your-being.html">we tend to compare ourselves</a>. Those of us with an inferiority complex instinctively know our short comings (physically or mentally) and get insecure. While those of us with a superiority complex cannot even let a woman be compared to us in a better way, instead of insecurity we have this dogmatic belief that everyone is below us. As far as I am concerned my defense mechanism guides me to be neither of the lot. If a woman is preferred over me I just think out her bad points and then KNOW in my heart that I m not worth being compared to her and after that it really doesn’t matter At All if my best friend, special someone or even my husband wants to spend time with her (as long as it’s not a relationship). I would love to invite her over and be friends with her. Well, why not? If you r sure of yourself you would love very person your beloved likes…..<br />
So Stop being jealous.<br />
And if someone leaves you for another then oh MY GOD…aren’t two ‘worst’ people made for each other too? Leave the 2 creeps on their own.<br />
Go to the parlor to groom your already ‘booty-full self ' *winks*!</div>
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CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-59916455659551642872014-01-25T13:32:00.000+05:002014-01-25T13:31:11.665+05:00A woman asks...A woman asks "Am I beautiful"? Not because she is unsure. Even if she is the prettiest girl on earth, always bestowed with compliments from every friend, she will still ask YOU coz ur opinion matters the most to her. You should feel proud and more of a man that your thoughts about her are so damn important. A girl can go to such lengths on your comments that if her dimpled smile lights up a whole ballroom and you just tease her and say that u don't like the 'Dents in her cheeks' she wud even stop laughing ..<br />
She asks ur opinion because she wants to know if she is beautiful enough for you or not? When there is a girl who knows she is not pretty ..seldom handed out compliments... has a lot to be desired in her body she will still ask.. And when u praise this girl's semi-moulded body and her half-good looks she knows you are exaggerating but she still loves it b/c if she is beautiful for you she knows she is the Beauty Queen of the world... Just one phrase below to sum it up...<br />
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CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-66549170785711278302013-07-12T23:22:00.001+05:002014-01-25T12:45:28.576+05:00GOLD is OLD !!<div class="MsoNormal">
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I don't know what’s the problem with the Easter mindset. Why are
they so stuck to Gold as the most prized possession throughout their lives and
for generations to come. In films, dramas, and real lives u keep hearing these
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Husband to wife: Main apni bike baich dunga jub tak job nhe
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Male child to mother: Amma main perhai k baad extra tuition day
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Mother to girl child: “main logon k kepray silai kerk teray
liay kuch jama ker lungi ,,, baki meri shadi ka zewar hay who tujhay dungi
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AAaaaARrrGGHuhHHhHHHH ! WTF !!<o:p></o:p></div>
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Oh yaar lets see it objectively in a different perspective.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Case 1: Bhai if your wife sells her locket you both can travel on
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Case 2: if the mother sells off her gold, her son will have less
to worry after those tiring university classes. Even if he does a
part-time job it will add to savings, on the other hand your gold just sits in
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Case 3: Maa jee why are you working your old ,cramped bones and
those God-gifted eyes to stitch clothes while you can sell off those sparkling
pieces, invest in some business and make even better JAHEZ for ur daughter
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I mean what's the EMO thingie with gold. A lot of things are
traded on engagements, weddings , birth celebrations, but out of these only
GOLD is kept as NISHANI (oh GOD why) . Why can't we keep some clothes or pics
or some artificial piece. Afterall it is about reminiscence right?<br />
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What good does a piece or set of metal lend to your life other
than hanging around your neck (or ear) after making YOU work your bones
and nerves to breaking point? Those tears associated with gold sets being given
away, the 'ehsaan' part of trading gold for something, making it all a BIG deal
and momentous human (read womanly) sacrifice?<br />
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<o:p></o:p>Array yaar invest in something worthwhile, get your own roof above
your head by investing against gold and enjoy your old age with constant
investment return instead of watching your daughters and Bahoos wear it and
thinking of moving u out of the house sinceyo u have nothing of your own ?<br />
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Moral : Gold is Old my womenfolks. Be proud to trade it for your
hubby’s job or son’s education or even installments for your new home. You can
make a lot more gold anytime in life, but the chance of investment knocks once
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CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-91166269652978858192012-04-07T11:31:00.000+05:002013-02-16T19:43:27.081+05:00Asking your man to do something!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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How to ask your man to do something for you without putting a dent on <a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2011/03/ego-n-man.html">his ego</a>? Hmmm.. tough one right? I know those of you who googled it are probably married ones wid a lazy ***** of a husband (ya i know at least when he is acting tired u do feel like abusing him silently) while others who have been in a long term relationship where the dewy eyed beginning has long evaporated face the same prob.<br />
(Once again i give a deduced understanding below of "Men are from Mars" by Dr. John Grey )<br />
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Woman often complain that men have lost their gentlemanly ways and don't do anything when asked -not even their fair share of work like laundry, dishwashing, room cleaning etc. Usually women themselves have relieved their men of this responsibility. We take pride in giving him everything on the plate, spoon feeding them. This is our way of showing love. Do I need to tell u guys again to <a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2012/03/do-u-create-ur-own-ditch.html">only give as much as you know you can receive?</a> I cannot emphasize more the importance of it.<br />
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So well all you have to do is change the wording of how you put it before him.<br />
Like instead of saying "Can you please remove the wet towel from the bed?"<br />
You can put it this way<br />
"Will you please remove the wet towel from the bed?"<br />
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Yes. I know you think I m fooling around. How can a mere exchange of interrogatives change the way he behaves to your plea? Actually men like to think that they CAN do any and everything. Ofcourse they CAN remove the towel. do you doubt them?? But why on earth should they do it it at your command? But when you show that you KNOW they can do it but are 'requesting' them as if you are asking their permission as <b style="font-style: italic;">'will you' </b>then it changes the way their mind perceives it<b style="font-style: italic;"> *</b><b><span style="font-style: italic;">hmmm..so she really needs me to do it out of my own will. It's upto me to do it or not. Fine no harm in helping dis girl!</span><span style="font-style: italic;">*</span></b><br />
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Well, it's fairly easy to understand it when i put a very important quotation in reverse order. Think of a man proposing you -----<br />
"Will you marry me?" (Ahh..the blush on your face)<br />
And imagine him asking you this way<br />
"Can you marry me?"<br />
(Whoa..wat was dat? You jerked away)<br />
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Ofcourse you can marry him but asking it in a 'permission granting' manner makes all the difference in the world. doesn't it?Try it sometime in other instances when you want him to listen to you,but make sure you know he is not in <a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2011/05/man-n-mood.html">his mood swing.</a><br />
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<br />CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com15tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-82493406914416837282012-03-03T19:58:00.002+05:002013-02-16T19:43:27.079+05:00Do u create ur own ditch?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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For any girl the key to less tears and more fulfillment in any relationship is to <b><i>'expect less</i></b>'. Believe u me men sniff 'expectations' a mile away and run from it as if they have read 'danger ahead' sign !!<br />
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Now how do you expect less? Just how? You wait for his call,you make him meals, u wash his laundry, u buy him presents, u don't eat/go out widout him, u cancel your plans with your friends just for him, u wake up late nights to talk to him..right?? (and this goes for both married and unmarried couples)..well STOP DOING ALL THAT!!<br />
or cut it to half....<br />
or else make sure he does all dat for u as well. Period!<br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">See don't create a ditch for yourself</span></b>.<br />
It might be that instead of him ditching u somewhere along the line u created the ditch urself. Women who expect more come across as needy and i dun need to tell u witty girlies how a needy (read run away fast) woman appears to the MAN-kind!!<br />
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If he can't cut on his meetings with male friends, if he doesn't ask u again about ur health when u were sick, if he can't wake up at nights coz he is too tired then so should not you. In one way i wouldn't call this rude. Trust me. Some men won't even notice if u din't give any of the above 'angelic favours'. Don't be a real devil, but please stop being a fragile, naive angel.<br />
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<a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2011/05/what-happens-when-we-give-what-we-want.html">Give as much as u KNOW he can give back</a>. Once he fails to reciprocate retrace ur steps and go to square one. That way u will have a lot less expectations from him which would result in less arguments and less resentment and more love. Resentment eats up love alive. People may even resent the other person while making love esp when they feel they r being used as objects instead of human and as soon as the 'moment' will pass their feelings will be forgotten! So keep the resentment out . You will have to try hard for it initially. Hmmm..what did you say? You don't resent him?? Ok then tell me will u b ok if he forgets to wish u on ur birthday , ur date anniversary, the Valentine day?? This is how women UNKNOWINGLY expect more and allow resentment to be built and ruin the relationship!<br />
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Once you stop rendering him favours or being super-caring machine for him then if by chance he cancels his night out wid the boys just for you it would be a 'nice surprise' for you instead of 'Oh i did just the same for him,,so he owes it to me'...You will be thankful to him instead of seeing it as an even-out situation. Do less so you expect less and enjoy more each time he makes a tiny effort. Create instances so you can be thankful to him instead of demanding.<i> S</i><b><i>ee the difference</i></b>??<br />
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Please do comment and tick the reaction boxes. and recommend it on Google. I would feel blessed :-))CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com15tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-31423025416255214872012-02-25T22:00:00.000+05:002012-02-25T22:00:03.801+05:00Enjoy Your BEING !<br />
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Here’s a post intended to make people feel generally good
about themselves. It’s obvious none of us is happy with our looks. No matter how
perfect a certain part of our physical appearance is we still have a lot to
desire. Perhaps because our own preferences about ourselves change with age,
climate, environment and even the people we meet. <o:p></o:p><br />
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When we are young we are never satisfied with the number of
toys and stationery we can get. In teenage we are so damn freaked out with the way
our body is changing chubby cheeks sinking in, jawline expanding, nose
protruding strangely and physically evident gender discrimination making its
way night after night and so on. Beyond teenage we are more towards gadgets
video games, small-time cameras, mobiles, laptops etc. till a point comes when
we can finally control some of our structure and appearance. That would be as
we exit teenage, though teenage girls who just turned sweet 16 are increasingly
seen thinking of surgeries to enhance their asset or glorify their complexion.
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So my point was to see the brighter side of everything that
you have that is God-gifted and that you cannot possibly change (or have given
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pigments . This means you are not going to get any type of skin rash, sun tan
or even acne . It’s more of a tough skin type. Fair-skinned people have
extremely sensitive skin which means even slightly more exposure to skin will
result in sun-burn. Yeah yeah I know dark people. complain of skin tan but it
goes away as quickly as it comes. You can enjoy yourself for hours on the beach
and you would never get burnt. That’s why we never have sun-tan prevention or
tan-inducing creams in Asia.</span></li>
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pimple-prone) then congrats coz beyond 30 years of age when your friends are
going for anti-ageing miracle creams you would not only have reduced acne(cos
of slow hormonal action). Your skin would also be the most youthful of all.
Those with dry skin can enjoy life so much with just a bit of moisturiser.</span></li>
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on the scalp and enjoy great comments. Those with straight hair can get them
permed or keep them straight whenever they want to. Nowadays, straightening,
perming, dying, extensions everything is IN. So feel blessed you are a part of
this advanced era.</span></li>
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told that they will look smart even after 3 children. Girls who are bulky will
have fewer problems in child bearing and also lactation.</span></li>
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you enjoy every time you get your first salary unlike those who have their own
huge business and get heart attacks every time the monthly sales chart dwindle.
You are an employee means you </span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;"> </span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">can change
company after company but your owner has no choice except to face a bankruptcy
if things go wrong with his company. So enjoy being a salaried person </span></li>
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your kids and grandkids while still in urn middle age (like 50s). If you are beyond
30 and still unmarried you know you have matured enough to handle your marital
life successfully with a lot less fantasies and expectations than that of a
young girl. Trust me you hubby will respect you for that. There will be less of
shattered dreams and more of a mature understanding with a taste of its own.</span></li>
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marriage then you can enjoy all events, ceremonies, happiness and sad moments
with your family and friends. If luck takes you abroad then you can think of
all the times you would get a celebrity-like welcome when you touch base. Right
na??</span></li>
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So, I hope I have gotten my point across ladies and the not-so-gentle-men
:DD Enjoy life in whatever state you are. If it’s so hard then imagine being in
the body of Brad Pitt , Nicole Kidman, Marilyn Monroe or Brittany Spears and
think of how they felt with popularity, money, their drug addiction, lifeless
life and a failure in private life which was present for the world to ridicule.
How would it feel if someone ditched you and your sullen pics were all over
mags, your cellulite ridden legs were the ‘<i>story of the day</i>’ and your <i>in-habitat
</i>ritual was being laughed at as a an attention-seeking tactic?? <o:p></o:p></div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">SeEEeEee!! NobOdy is <span style="font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace;">h<i>app</i>y...</span> coZ noBody is Perf<i>ect</i>! Enjoy till it
lasts!!</span></b><o:p></o:p></div>CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-5436978049957717002012-02-14T12:17:00.003+05:002014-01-30T11:36:23.558+05:00Gold on V-Day!Sorry for being desperate to catch your attention like the sidelined Facebook ads, but i Had to. On V-day for all newly-met couples and even older ones i would like to know how your relationship is coming along. As you know that besides my blog name <b>the Emotional Lava </b>my blog link is basically about relationships . See this address?? <a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/">http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/</a>. <i>So by Gold in my blog topic I meant Old is Gold</i> !!<br />
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So here's a review of my previous posts where i have written about all those love birds i see on<span style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 115%;"> facebook,
messenger and those cutie-pie girlfriends of mine who are starry eyed in their
new love.*touchwood* Mwaaaaaaah my lovelies :-))</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 115%;">Here's a quick review</span><br />
<span style="font-size: 13.5pt; line-height: 115%;">Ever noticed a change in his mood after the first 3 heavenly months?? Here's the reason. </span><br />
<a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2011/06/why-men-withdraw-their-love-for-some.html"><span style="background-color: blue; color: white; font-size: large;">Why men withdraw their love for sometime</span></a><br />
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Why is your man having mood changes difficult to comprehend and he won't even tell you about it?<br />
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<span style="color: blue; font-size: large;"><a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2011/05/man-n-mood.html">How to adjust to his mood?</a></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue; font-size: large;"><a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2011/06/men-withdrawing-love-part-2.html">Men withdrawing love -part 2</a></span><br />
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Have you passed the initial 3 months stage successfully. it's been 6 months now and you feel you are giving too much?? Here's somthing that would really make you understand why you give and he doesn't.<br />
<a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2011/05/what-happens-when-we-give-what-we-want.html"><span style="color: blue; font-size: large;">What happens when we give what we want to only!</span></a><br />
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<br />CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-76380010128783596512012-02-10T22:04:00.000+05:002014-01-30T11:46:17.021+05:00The Power of NO<br />
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Seriously I mean wat do some people think when they want to
ask you for a favour and then it goes on like forever? I m sure most girls
would agree with me when it comes to the so-called ‘sharing’ of things between
female friends esp the best buddies. At some point in time you feel your
possessions are being taken over then the exchange being a 50-50 situation.
You feel you are buying more goodies and giving them up in the name of friendly
charity rather than getting to use some from your other friend. Khair this
never happened to me except in cases when I had to drop off friends with no reciprocation for me. <b><i><span style="font-size: large;">Hello!! I hate being taken for granted.</span></i></b><br />
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One of my friends (when she entered professional life and earned a <i>handsome paycheck</i>) went to the
extent of saying IN MY CAR that I can’t afford to give my friends a treat
at an expensive restaurant with my teacher’s income. Oh Hello? I was the one who
used to drop u off every damn day when u used to come by a bus and thinking of
treat I really would NOT WANT TO treat u to a decent location cz even <i><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><b>that very day</b></span></i><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span>I PAID for the treat!! <i><b>And btw I earn for fun not to feed my family
AlhumduLILLAH. </b></i>Anyways after dat day I cut contact with her only to receive
her call after like 2 yrs when I openly related my grievances to her. I m nto
someone who lies low on her revenge esp when it involves using my tongue as a
weapon! <o:p></o:p></div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">So NO m not impressed
with ur Moolah if u want me bak u hav to be the same ol’ pal with me!</span><o:p></o:p></b></div>
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<a href="http://pictures.inspirationfeed.netdna-cdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/saying-no.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://pictures.inspirationfeed.netdna-cdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/saying-no.jpg" height="174" width="320" /></a>Then in my professional life there was a certain teacher who
used to get on my nerves giving me friendly advice on how to wear my clothes, where to get them stitched from, even how to wear my hair. Excuse me!! I go there to teach
students not for a fashion parade <i>like
her. </i>Finally one day in an venom-spitting teary outburst I told her to
knock off and not to get on my nerves. I was flabbergasted when she actually
came up to me and apologized with the ever-so-misused line of <b>I thought of u like my li’l sis ! DUH ! as
if I ever craved for a sis!!</b> I m an only daughter n I love the power of
running my kingdom all by myself!<o:p></o:p></div>
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In the same org . my head once asked me to erase a day’s
diary from the board of all classes I took dat very day and this too <i>just 5 minutes before the school was to over</i>
and I was AGHAST. I said m NOT gonna agree to dat silly request threw the pen I
had on her table and sat down in another angry outburst yah yeah tears n all
and DID NOT DO IT ! <o:p></o:p></div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">So NO I m not going
to be PUSHED even if u r professionally higher up than me<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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Then there are people who ask for favours in the
name of being your poor domestic servants. Can u imagine my Masi sees betelnut wrappers when dusting and
asks me to give her one too!! And the hair color, shampoo, cold creams, I use!! One day she eve n asked me <i>‘aap nay merya
liay pink wali lippisstick laker daynee hai Eid k liay’ </i>( u hav to buy me a
pink lipstick for the event) –I was like<i> <b>I
can only give u the one I don’t use anymore otherwise buy it</b></i><b>!</b><br />
Yesterday
of all the things she saw my hair straightener (oh how much I had alarm bells
in my mind not to lay it in plain sight) and asked me to straighten her hair
for a Christmas rehearsal. I was working on the lappy
at dat time n she was snooping around *pulls hair* I had to tell her
curtly ‘ <i>I cannot straighten ur hair cz I dun
do it even for my friends. I can give u money for waxing me n u can get it done
from parlour’</i>. U know wat? She even knew of hair straightening lotion n said
<i>‘I
dun go to parlours. They cut my hair never to grow again by using weird
scissors’</i> .*imagine* i said ‘<i>no dun
talk rubbish. I dun care. M not gonna do it!”<o:p></o:p></i></div>
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And finally I removed a fast friend my fb list when she sed I
look weird with permed hair. Excuse me? Either comment or don’t . You know I love
permed hair. When I made that point clear to her she asked me to F*** off. (<i>what the hell !!) </i>Nobody uses profane words with ME..not even my best friends! I cut contact with her obviously-not a
word exchanged- and ofcourse she returned after a few weeks in a sweet self I never
saw before.<o:p></o:p><br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">SO NO, NO, NO to Abusive language, Push-overs, Innocent pestering and Yes I m old-fashioned and
khiski huee</span></b><span style="font-size: large;"> *mental and sentimental*</span><br />
.......<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">..</span><span style="line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I DUN CARE ! FINITO !!</span><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-51911988514235260132012-02-02T13:16:00.000+05:002014-01-23T12:49:38.397+05:00Catch A Match!<br />
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I am recently going through a match making process –rigorously
and religiously- with me being presented as a trophy ready to be won. <i>AH! Dat was
just to boost up my morale</i>. I’m not sure what number of subcontinental
population will be viewing my article, but those who are would know precisely
what a sarcastic comment that was. Indeed a pun at all the girls being presented
before prospective suitors –mostly to be not given another look. The phone call
never comes as they say. <o:p></o:p><br />
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I’m not sure if guys go through the same process. The problem
is the groom-judging scenario comes <b><i>after</i></b> the girl has been selected.
Plus it is said that a man is judged by his earning potential and not by his
looks or age ‘mard kabhi bhoora naheen hota’ *eyes rolling*. I’m sure very few men have gone through rejection
based on their ability to provide for the bride-to-be. e.g. a good house (<i>preferable owned , regular monthly
income, nuclear family system, own car, no dependency
burden of other family members, good designation, preferably settled abroad
and the list goes on</i>). But since the girl is judged first, the depression
and the underlying insult comes sooner and more explicitly as the whole family waits
for the ‘hum soch ker jawab daingay’ phone call. I’m sure if a girl is chosen
and the family finds the boy not up to their financial standards they would
also backout and the guy would feel the same insult as a girl does! After all it is pretty demeaning to be judged and rejected on your
monthly income which depends on you capabilities both mentally and physically!<o:p></o:p><br />
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I have shown both sides of the picture this time unlike
other articles that display only the girl’s sides. No doubt that IS the truth that
a girl suffers more b/c by the time she is chosen she has age working AGAINST
her and even if the boy is below standard financially or in looks the parents
are forced to be in a compromising situation.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Now coming to the title of this article. In my imagination there
is a solution. I feel that all this superficial judgment of looks and money
makes the soulmate activity pretty soul-less. You know devoid of spirituality,
just robotic! Where are the values, the meeting of eyes, the beating of hearts,
the feeling of he’/she being the ONE? In our society it is considered more sane to trample
each other’s dignity and crush the parents’ hopes than to arrange
for a suitable meeting environment for the couple who indeed should talk to
each other before deciding to live together for a lifetime<br />
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The title of this article ‘<b>CATCH A MATCH’</b> is for a café -like setting where the parents
arrange for the guy and girl to meet each other in friendly circumstances and discover each other. The café owners should make sure
that they provide respectable privacy to the couple and they know the purpose
of this meeting such that both families are ensured of a ‘Halal meeting’ of the
prospective couple. A lot of tension would be resolved this way on both sides. Trust me
if marriage bureaus start running a cafe like this they would have entries by
the minute and neither the girl or guy nor their families would ever feel there
was any confusion, misunderstanding, and the oh-so-clichéd ‘actually
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Ah I really wish it could be done that way. Would be every
girl’s dream who goes through the cumbersome process of dressing up, going to parlor,
rehearsing interview questions and answers in her mind and many other things. Plus
it won't be anything like dating . The guy would
also be relived to ask the questions that matter to him and which he cannot ask
through his parents. In the process if either girl or guy has some personal
issues like having a lover already, some health problem, a unique or eccentric
thought process they can convey it to the other then there can be a very
amicable turning down of proposal where the girl would feel dignified ! <o:p></o:p></div>
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p.s. Waiting for the response of girls who were and are going
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CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com17tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-32499615116440693352012-01-09T22:18:00.000+05:002013-02-16T19:52:05.832+05:00Compromise- once again !<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I want to immerse in this topic once again. ! <a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2010/04/compromise-to-rise.html">Previous post is here</a>.<br />
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There is NO perfect relationship, friendship or association in this world. Compromises and trade-offs are always there to strike any deal such that both parties benefit from it. You compromise a lot of your ego, sometimes even your self-respect, to get your dream job and stay at it- just like showbiz people, cricketers, and other celebrities pay for their fame. So why do people feel that any relationship in which there is a compromise is below par? </div>
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Actually people really start thinking that a relationship is ‘perfect’especially in the beginning when the sparks are flying at full pace and love is at its peak. But as soon as the trial period of 3 months expires the faults become evident. It is then that people find their dreams shattered and feel ditched. Sometimes both parties get hurt just because of Ego wars. Even though heart break is difficult to counter in any situation, in an open relationship it’s still easy to walk out, but what happens if you are bound for life as in a husband and wife’s relationship?</div>
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If you have made up your mind that you won’t compromise then you would feel suffocated every day. In my opinion it’s always about 'Compromise' that makes you sail smoothly through a relationship journey, but you HAVE TO make up your mind about it. It’s about appreciating the differences and living them up. No matter how much you feel (with time) that it would have been heavenly if your better half had similar interests and tastes as yours, it’s practically just as <b><u>boring </u></b>to converse on similar things as it is irritating to listen to opposing ideas (from your partner of heterogeneous interests) all the times. Doing<b> <i>similar acts</i></b>, and<i> <b>thinking alik</b></i><b>e</b> means you would behave same in all situations- even in crisis. For example if both of you have a <i><b>short temper</b></i> and are <i><b>egoistic</b> </i>your relationship is gonna fall prey to the first strike of lightning because neither party will bow down.</div>
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Similarly, if both of you have <b>SAME</b> ideas about enjoyment, thrills, dine-outs and how to spend night time, there won’t be much fun if you do the same routine month after month. Some fresh ideas would always add spice to the plate and that can only be if <i><b>one of you is more outgoing and adventurous than the other.</b></i> If from the beginning you are similar to the core you would seriously get bored of each other, there won’t be any arguments and certainly no kiss and makeup. Life would be so mundane. Once again I think that 2 people who are outgoing would also be counter-productive to each other’s ideas. It's obvious that if a couple is totally good or totally evil they will either bore or kill each other -respectively. </div>
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So all of you out there who think having a perfect relationship means ‘being similar’, think again of what you are asking. When two personalities are different and bound to live their life together its always better that differences- sometimes glaring, stark ones- are there so you discover each other month after month, year after year and revel in the warmth of the new sunshine throughout your life <span style="font-family: Wingdings;">J</span></div>
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Within the set up described above there are mothers who are overly-possessive about their son and tend to get too involved in his affairs. As they are educated and have a high profile in society no one thinks that such fine lady can keep her son and her husband so hen-pecked.!! The son obeys her every command and unknowingly submits to her will which means limiting the free-will of his wife to the extent that there’s no way out than divorce (which most probably the woman seeks in today’s era).<br />
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I have seen marriages being broken b/c of mothers actually swearing by their honor that they wouldn’t forgive her son if he doesn’t give divorce to a girl. It actually happened with a close friend. The mother came happily to ask for Rishta. Nikah got done on the 3<sup>rd</sup> day as the guy flew abroad. After one year he started cutting contact and then one day the couple’s mothers met whereby the guy’s mom said “we are sorry, I want my son to get married to my niece. I have nothing against your girl, but I can’t let this nikah continue”. No amount of persuasion, solutions bore any fruit. And my friend remained a bachelorette (without rukhsati- “living together”).</div>
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This is just one instance. There will be countless others. The only difference in the in-laws trouble this time around is we are talking of educated, sensible women sometimes even God-fearing ones-women who are seen with respect in society. With such a great social status of the mother, at most the guy gets blamed for breaking the relationship whereas men as STUPID as they usually are in close relationships remain clueless. Once again this argument never justifies their inability to GRASP a situation and solve it. </div>
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Men need to know they are able, adult and allowed by Islam to keep their wives separately and solve matter. Torturing a girl mentally or physically deprives the mother of her ‘heavenly status’, a boy of his good herring in heavens and leads all those in this relationship suffer in their lives for a long time. Mothers please think again. Even of you are bringing up a toddler. Will you be this way?<br />
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do read <a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2012/03/do-u-create-ur-own-ditch.html">How to expect less in a relationship??</a> to save urself relationship trouble.</div>
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</div>CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com23tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-46621128858179399812011-09-28T22:48:00.002+05:002011-09-29T01:28:23.279+05:00BEWARE !! It's a RANT!!!<div class="MsoNormal"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div>Acha jee a lot has been going on in my mind lately though it’s not of importance to anyone, but if u can’t share ur innermost troubles on the blog then wat’s the blogger forum for? I guess most of us resort to blogger for pouring out feelings that we CANNOT make known as Facebook statuses. Right na? U may write on FB “GOD! Some friends just get on ur nerves” . Anyone who asks u on Fb u may reply “oh, it’s Ok, the prob got solved :PPP” while ur blogger post will carry a detailed account of who u got known for backbiting about you . Hayna?<o:p></o:p><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal">Anyways today I wanna tell u how I wanna organize my house n y do I keep screaming n murmuring phrases of dislike every second to all members of the family. DISORDER AND EXCESS both make me MAD. Like totally mad. I m a Virgo by birth and at heart. I wish if I had gotten married- dat I had a small, simply decorated house, one which gathers less dust, where there’s just one set of crockery n cutlery, very little or no show pieces, sofa covers dat r washable, no movie collection ( like my bro has at home n which consumes 3 TROLLEYS…YES , plus a cupboard shelf ), n there would be less cupboards, no empty boxes, no piles n piles of clothes n where my better half would also agree wid me in giving away used clothes as soon as we buy new ones. Phew,,,dusn’t all this look like crap to u ? yaar kya keroon.. I AM LIKE THIS! Very very organized, when I used to watch the ‘ housewife’ type program on BBC LIFESTYLE – where a women goes in houses and organizes competition b/w housewives for clearing up and organizing junk at home, I just used to love it. The thing that is MOST IRKSOME for me is the attachment ppl. Hav wid OLD THINGS. It’s ok to hav ONE PASSION but collecting all magazines, movies, bottles, books, dumbbells and every other thing dats old n worn out so much so that there seems a need to hav a separate room for it is sooo bad.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://th3rdculture.files.wordpress.com/2011/07/dailyrant.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://th3rdculture.files.wordpress.com/2011/07/dailyrant.jpg" /></a></div>I seriously know most guys wud feel it’s a rant from a 40 yr old housewife or their own mother. Y do guys like to accumulate junk? Yaar kya masla hay apni T –shirt ya old jeans kisi ghareeb ko daynay main ??(wats the prob in giving away ur worn out jeans to a needy fellow??). I m also amazed at the passion or cosmetics n crockery dat women hav … TOBA! It never ends n then u need drawers and cabinets n show cases to stack/stash them all in.<o:p></o:p><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal">That was about disorder and I m desperately trying to organize (and throw away unnecessary things from) my house. This means BIG TIEM trouble as every one who comes back home strats yelling at me when they find their drawers n desks free of clutter and no one thanks me ever except after an year or so when they feel the need for sumthing dat I threw away ages ago they say” dekha ..iss waqt who cheez hoti tau kitna kaam ate”..oh yeah then go n pile up all the things in the world n sit on it !!<o:p></o:p></div><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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I also hate these fashion lawn exhibitions, just went there once to chk it out, all expensive stuff which I wud NEVER EVER buy. Why shud I go after some Sana, Zubaida n Sara when I hav my own mind ?? I mean seriously just b/c sum rich kid got herself a designer course n her father brought her a shop in park towers dusn’t mean I wud spend a fortune on buying their clothes nor dus it guarantee BEST MATERIAL as all is made in Pakistan already. Plus women who die on those modeled outfits wid embroidery, lace, n all yucky designs well,i use ur mind n create ur own instead of buying a hilariously expensive 5k suit. I mean 5-10k ! someone earns like 25k these days n u think of burning it all up in 3-4 dress pieces? Dat’s outrageous!<o:p></o:p><br />
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I m so sorry for not posting often. Even my b.day post was so half-hearted i realized long after it that i hadn't written ANYTHING in the post body -just the title! (i was online from mob at dat time). My dear friend jack just asked if i have gone MIA ..n seriously i felt great dat ppl. genuinely miss me here. So here's another one - sticking to my original blog topic of relationships. !!</div>
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After behavioral tendencies and ego another factor is CHANGE! If you as a woman don’t like shocks and can really take your lover as he is then it can be heavenly. He smokes, he utters abuses, his grammar is weak, he is too much into sports, he loves his best friend, he doesn’t change clothes too often, he wastes money, WHATEVER it is –and I do mean “whatever”, don’t try to change it. In case he has already tried to change DON'T think it will last forever i.e. don’t take it for granted.<br />
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Tell me did u change for him? Will u leave your best friend forever? Just wait for the first fight with him and u will go running to the phone to call your best gal !! Will u stop listening to old sad songs, or watch romantic movies? Would u stop wearing high heels and that gaudy jewelry or those sexy clothes that make u look attractive? Did I hear a NO?? <b><i>Well then y should he change</i></b>? Even if u do give up one of your patterns u would feel PUSHED. You wouldn’t feel like yourself anymore, but an object that has been programmed and this would <u>give way to <b>resentment </b>slowly.</u> It’s still easy for a woman to adjust and adapt- we are born this way- but for men it’s just a frenzy of your attraction which commands him to change. As soon as he has YOU for good he would change back or otherwise lie to u about not sneak-peaking into his bad habits- which includes making online girlfriends and watching porn!<br />
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</div>CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-43387223921659322011-08-30T05:46:00.000+05:002011-08-30T05:46:53.732+05:00my birthdayCATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com17tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-59086490564554504312011-08-20T14:32:00.001+05:002011-08-20T23:42:04.735+05:00Friends ?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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My friendship has always been troublesome for me. I don't put much faith in friends. the problem is Im always there for them especially when they r going through a rough time or need HELP PRACTICALLY, but they are rarely there once there problem is over.<br />
I used to wake up in nights in my school days helping them, I used to pray for them, i used to laugh wid them, share my lunch wid them, cry over their worries, be happy for their achievements, marriage, kids n many many things. I KNOW coz i have done it. It dus seem awkward to mention it here.. But ppl. forget the li'l things u did for them n they even forget to call..<br />
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Khair its been years now. M in my late twenties so all this seems like teenage gibberish, but one thing hasn't changed- I have become judgmental about friends . I start attaching connotations to every thing dat they say something like trying to find a motive behind their sweetness. Just ILL AT EASE... I just can't relax in their company. I HATE IT when advice is hurled my way. LISTEN YOU...when i m feeling desolate n depressed i don't need that ' i told u so' tone AND i don't need a balance sheet of how u manage ur life n i how i shud have managed mine. HOW can ppl. forget when i lend them an ear in their bad times?<br />
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I JUST need u to put faith in me that i will get out of trouble, just LISTEN to me. Ofcourse u cannot change the way things have turned out for me, but u can elevate my mood by JUST BEING THERE. Don't tell me what i did wrong. Ok don't appreciate me either, but right when I m DOWN just BE WITH ME. just curse the one who disturbed me. Don't ask me to change - at least not at that point.<br />
I dunno....<b>Ppl. who criticize me just LOSE IT WID ME...</b> while ppl. who show trust in ME reside in m heart for long...Still i don't believe in friendships...when someone needs me I will go out of my way to help them, cheer them up n definitely pray for them. I m a friend u can rely on in tough times. In moments of joys? I may or may not be there. So u just be there when i need u.<br />
A best friend for me is a good listener, not a critic....YES. when u criticize me something breaks deep down widin me.. n that broken piece is our BOND ...I don't tell this to ppl. I just slowly cut away n they never know...<br />
Blogger is my best friend..BUSS!!</div>
CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-11690006024456769452011-07-24T12:32:00.002+05:002014-01-30T12:19:36.856+05:00EGO *!*<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Who wud start talking first? Who wud send the first sms, make the first call,
send the first chat msg. after things have been stormy? Isn’t that a mountain
of a task? Soooo difficult to let go of EGO no matter both of u r dying to
contact each other? I have usually seen that in beginning it’s the man who
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If you can manage it just don’t let them know u r head over heels in love with
them, that just takes away the spice and the headiness from the race towards
winning you. Most men operate this way. <a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2011/09/i-m-so-sorry-for-not-posting-often.html">Once settled into a relationship they CHANGE</a>. In the beginning it’s for the better but later on it becomes worse.</div>
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Please do read <a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2011/05/man-n-mood.html">why men have mood changes</a><br />
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-<a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2011/06/why-men-withdraw-their-love-for-some.html">What happens when men withdraw love.</a><br />
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CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com15tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-52697777037516875872011-07-02T20:02:00.000+05:002014-01-27T12:52:37.831+05:00My Soulmate<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
i dunno. it just struck me some moments ago. how wud it be if i get a Muslim-convert as a soulmate? wudnt it be just great!! A man who wud be (almost) on his way to heavens on this earth. Life wud be an exploration of the <b><i>'higher kind</i></b>' wid him. Instead of climbing mountains, going on bike rides, swimming into deepest oceans we wud be exploring Islam n making sure our life hereafter wud be full of bountiful adventures... (though i wudnt mind enjoying my life on earth wid him as well ;-)... I hav found many Muslim convert girls on blog but very rarely a guy. Maybe he can be a fair skinned American, European- tall n lanky wid a hard-core accent..woww !! n we wud both sit on sultry noons n breezy nights sharing how we prayed for each other from afar.... n how good wud it be to introduce him to my family... my grandpa was a Muslim convert so i wud love to hav another one ;-))<br />
I think it wud kill any girl's "girly wits" to admit in open about her life partner n i too would be too embarassed to ever do that , but to ask for a man in a way which has been PREFERRED MOST by Islam i.e. a religiously stable (pious) man...MashALLAH....is it too much?<br />
<i><b>I hope my dream comes true :-))</b></i></div>
CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com27tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-4220650377994064292011-06-18T23:16:00.001+05:002014-01-30T12:09:19.299+05:00Men withdrawing love -part 2<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Why are men so absorbed in their mood? <a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2011/06/why-men-withdraw-their-love-for-some.html">I have written on it sweepingly earlier as wel</a>l - a man wears his mood like his favorite pair of jeans which can as well extend into one whole week. I don’t know why but I go completely SENSELESS when I feel my male counterpart- even just a friend- is withdrawing emotionally. John Grey of “Men are from Mars…” refers to this as the “drawing into his cave” period.<br />
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Women are required to understand this phase and not to prod and urge them to talk and share. <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><u>They won’t.</u></b> The biggest mistake would be to create an emotional drama and even bigger to feel guilty that his mood is due to something SHE did. No Hun it isn’t YOU! Unless ofcourse he told u that you are the reason or unless u guys had a fight a night earlier. Do u really think that your man is afraid to tell u dat u pissed him off? Oh he will alright! Even if he loves you to the hilt he will tell u what u did wrong. So if he isn't telling anything believe u me YOU are NOT the reason. <br />
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There is also another side to this phase the “rubber band” stage. When a man and woman become very close to each other- not just physically- but share all details, life, plans, past, future, idiosyncrasies, friends and ofcourse love in their relationship things start heating up. After 3 months the man experiences what is called his 'rubber band' nature. He has given and shared a lot and he feels a bit vulnerable so <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">he needs to pull away- just like a rubber band- in the opposite direction (to you)</i></b>. That is the point when u needs to leave him alone ‘coz that is the point when he will be - unexcited, uninterested, withdrawn- distant!<br />
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If you give him the space to experience his pull-back he will gain his real self in some days n come back to u just as u release a fully stretched rubber band – <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">full force</b> ! May the ‘force’ be with YOU <span style="font-family: Wingdings;">J</span></div>
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CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com34tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-53134363438591252942011-06-05T12:24:00.003+05:002014-01-30T11:57:43.578+05:00Why men withdraw their love for some time!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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The first 3 months in any relationship have been proven to be the best by all writers in the world. It is called the perfect phase. Both of you agree on many important (though broader only) aspects of life. You share fun times, adventures, a li’l secret from the past, and your desires to live a happy life together. Time flies by. You chat, talk on phone for hours into midnight. Love blossoms and you feel like screaming out aloud to the world that you have met your perfect man/woman!</div>
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Facebook status is updated with lovey-dovey messages, eating-out is common, and all ur girlfriends know about this guy.</div>
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And then the blossoming sun starts heating up when the initial 3 months pass by! </div>
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One fine day yo realize that your man is not sharing as much as he used to, he seems distant-though not rude- but indifferent to your questioning. Even if u put forth a problem of yours which would have normally engaged him in a conversation , he just utters syllables like "Ok”…"Hmm”.. "Will see”.. and You are aghast!<br />
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Problem is both approaches are wrong. Your guy is trying to focus on some of his urgent problem and he needs time to go <i>‘into his cave’</i> and think about it. Do not push him, cajole him "<i>plzz bugs bunny talk to me "</i> or intimidate him "<i>if u won’t talk then…</i>" . And plz don’t think its because of you –if it really isn’t.<br />
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<u>Men don’t like to share their problems coz it makes them feel <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">vulnerable</i></b></u><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">. </i></b>Just like women like to discuss and share their problems men like to think about it alone. At those times he would be thankful to you if you can take care of yourself and stop being an emotional burden for him. Give him space. Do your own thing. Don’t pester him. No matter how <b>Great</b> a communication u had wid him in the past he will have his ‘cave days’. If u wud follow him into his cave insisting that he shares he can be very rude to you. It’s an old tribe-women’s theme <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">“Don’t follow him into the cave or u will get burnt by the dragon!</b>”. For example, he might NOT want to say those things like “<i>leave me alone</i>” , “ <i>why r u looking for trouble. I didn’t say anything</i>”, “<i>Just knock off</i>” .. n blah blah…<b>but he will say it!</b><br />
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So the best thing at these times is to really <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><u>‘leave him alone’</u></b>. Don’t whine/complain and most of all <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><u>don’t blame yourself</u></b>. Call a girlfriend (but not to cry over his behavior), go to the parlor, listen to music and wait (at least 1 week) for him to come back to his normal self….<br />
And then how to ask him what happened to his problem. <a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2011/06/men-withdrawing-love-part-2.html">I will tell u in my next post</a>!<br />
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Oh n yes <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Don’t punish him for coming back by retaliating what he said to you. This might make him retreat into his cave for a longer period!</i></b><br />
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Do you wan to know what to do when your man has<a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2011/05/man-n-mood.html"> mood problems</a>?<br />
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Do you realize how <a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2012/03/do-u-create-ur-own-ditch.html">women ruin the relationship by ourselves</a>?</div>
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CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com30tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-91905826492467426772011-05-22T12:48:00.000+05:002012-02-21T11:40:59.020+05:00What happens when we Give what we Want to -Only!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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We all know that a woman loves to celebrate birthdays, anniversaries etc. She always remembers her spouse’s birthday and showers him with all sorts of gifts and affection on his special day. This is what she loved to do, but not what he expected. He may just be ‘mildly pleased’ with that (and earns -50 from his woman). On his turn however, he not only wishes her a day late he also forgets to make her feel grand by not celebrating it the way she imagined it to be (another minus 50 for the man- making it a total of -100).<br />
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Has the love died now and we see each others' true self (initially blurred by the cloud of love) and can’t live together anymore?Is it time for a break-up? Time to move on?</div>
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It’s time to list up all the good/bad and extreme things about each other. But it’s also necessary to give TIME to your partner ALONE. Get some space yourself too. Keep safe distance (total cut-off is detrimental and certainly not necessary if you are too attached). Slowly the negative points you gave to your partner go back to a naught (zero). As you actually compare your partner with other men/women you start handing out positive points on how good your girl/guy had been to you. How they negated their personal values to please you only to see their efforts being ignored by you. You suddenly realize how they changed for you. How innocent their demands were and just a little effort on your part could have added another spark in your relationship igniting it all over again...</div>
</div>CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-41903181616803391842011-05-17T20:05:00.003+05:002014-01-23T12:39:06.712+05:00Why Boys Don't Cry ?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Y don’t guys admit that they cry like us too?? It is because they are much too afraid of having a rejection or even a ridicule. Why? Because CRYING is womanly.. ..feminine. When girls cry we look sooo DELICIOUS .When we cry we can make a man fall in love wid us….But if I were to see a bleary eyed guy am sure my drive for him will fall by 40% (unless he is crying coz of someone’s death). </div>
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Women are much more capable of handling difficult life situationsthan men because they cry. They are not afraid of showing their weak side to the world. Boys are. This ‘be a man’ psyche has been grilled in their minds since time immemorial and it’s this reason that they cry only widin their hearts- very rarely translating it into a pearl that comes out of the eye and leaves its impression on the cheeks. Does this last line make u hear ‘poetic’? True. A lot of poetry has been denoted to the eyes n tears of a woman. It’s beautiful to see a woman cry and even makes us feel attractive when we cry in front of a lover, but put this whole frame around a masculine figure and all you end up wid is the phrase ‘he needs to grow up!’</div>
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Tell me do u feel safe n protected with a man who cries when u don’t call him back ? Not me !<br />
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If u like this post u may also want to know that <a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2012/03/do-u-create-ur-own-ditch.html">how to expect less</a> from ur man to save yourself trouble later!!<br />
Also do you want to know <a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2011/05/man-n-mood.html">why men have their 'silent treatment' moods</a>? Wanna figure out why your boyfriend has distanced and how to deal with it??<br />
Why do men <a href="http://relationships-catgirl.blogspot.com/2011/06/why-men-withdraw-their-love-for-some.html">withdraw their love for sometime</a>>??</div>
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CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com13tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-36287721627626649912011-05-04T02:21:00.001+05:002014-01-30T11:35:46.496+05:00Man n Mood !<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Women like to share when they are upset, sad and lonely. While men do EXACTLY the opposite. They just don’t want to share let alone with a woman who is his special someone. Reason is simple. They want to project a Herculean image of themselves in front of their Lady Love. No matter how strong they are from outside, or even emotionally, they are terrified of voicing out their worries since from childhood they were programmed to ‘be a Man’ and ‘boys don’t cry’. They want to be the ultimate provider, self-assured; a mentally, financially and physically stable symbol of dependence that a woman can ever have. At the same time most men these days detest women depending wholly and solely on them. Well, let’s face it- you woman. You do want your best female friend to share with u her every worry but would u like her to be dependent on you for all her needs? NAH! U wud run if not miles away from such an insecure woman who’s crying every time of her lost love, her overweight problems or her kids.<br />
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Similarly, women who cry at the drop of a handkerchief and expect the hanky to be picked up by their partner for their eyes to be wiped off are terribly mistaken. Men like to provide but they don’t like nurse you unlike women who like to nurture and mother their partner. Men are always more attracted to self-assured, confident (but not proud), easy going and intelligent women. Ofcourse I cry, sometimes even JUST to feel there is someone out there to dry off my tears, but it’s better not to take it to heights. Even you wouldn't enjoy your tears if they r no longer ‘precious’ to someone.</div>
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CATGIRL !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/11122375749792000864noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8845235512339360712.post-11352349108430229282011-04-09T13:05:00.001+05:002011-04-09T13:05:00.659+05:00Fate.....<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p>Sometimes we never intend to hurt anyone but a little misunderstanding destroys everything ----everything that is sooo important to you...</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Sometimes u just cant prove ur innocence-ur love... The trust u hav in someone n the trust someone has in you becomes so difficult to get back ...just coz of a little misunderstanding a whole perfect relationship gets destroyed...</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
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