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So once again I traverse the deep seas of my innate passion that at times submerges itself beneath a calm n naive facade but is raging n thrashing in the realm of my heart !! And so the mystery of Catgirl unfolds once again to all who are still mesmerized by my perseverance and many more who are yet to be in awe of it !! Catgirl working undercover as a teacher N Blogger henceforth pronounces herself a hard-core feminist !!! A girl out to protect the "woman-cause' in the world of self-loving male; A girl who would do anything she is capable of to restore the image of women which has been tarnished, even in the modern society ! Catgirl Strikes again !!! (my logo since 12 years)

Thursday, January 30, 2014

Are you a jealous woman?


Have u been in a relationship n suddenly became utterly possessive about your man and then decided to act totally like the ‘bitchy’ woman u never thought u would be? And to top it all off he suddenly started showing more interest in whatever absorbed more of his time and ignited your jealousy even more. Right?

NO it cannot be just another woman. It can be his male friends, his favorite sports, and even a car!! Anything that seems to consume his interest more than u tends to spark off jealousy in you. Why r we women like this? Is there a way out of it? I know I know.. 90% of u reading this would be like “ I dun care a damn. I’m not jealous!” Ok if that is not the case would u then let your special someone go out alone with an (female) old school mate or to chat wid some colleague online while ignoring u? Tell me only if it Has happened with u…dun give me predictions !!

The problem with us women is that we tend to compare ourselves. Those of us with an inferiority complex instinctively know our short comings (physically or mentally) and get insecure. While those of us with a superiority complex cannot even let a woman be compared to us in a better way, instead of insecurity we have this dogmatic belief that everyone is below us. As far as I am concerned my defense mechanism guides me to be neither of the lot. If a woman is preferred over me I just think out her bad points and then KNOW in my heart that I m not worth being compared to her and after that it really doesn’t matter At All if my best friend, special someone or even my husband wants to spend time with her (as long as it’s not a relationship). I would love to invite her over and be friends with her. Well, why not? If you r sure of yourself you would love very person your beloved likes…..
So Stop being jealous.
And if someone leaves you for another then oh MY GOD…aren’t two ‘worst’ people made for each other too? Leave the 2 creeps on their own.
Go to the parlor to groom your already ‘booty-full self ' *winks*!

Saturday, January 25, 2014

A woman asks...

A woman asks "Am I beautiful"?  Not because she is unsure. Even if she is the prettiest girl on earth, always bestowed with compliments from every friend, she will still ask YOU coz ur opinion matters the most to her. You should feel proud and more of a man that your thoughts about her are so damn important. A girl can go to such lengths on your comments that if her dimpled smile lights up a whole ballroom and you just tease her and say that u don't like the 'Dents in her cheeks' she wud even stop laughing ..
She asks ur opinion because she wants to know if she is beautiful enough for you or not?  When there is a girl who knows she is not pretty ..seldom handed out compliments... has a lot to be desired in her body she will still ask.. And when u praise this girl's semi-moulded body and her half-good looks she knows you are exaggerating but she still loves it b/c if she is beautiful for you she knows she is the Beauty Queen of the world... Just one phrase below to sum it up...

"You don't love a woman because she is beautiful..
a woman is beautiful because you love her..."

Friday, July 12, 2013

GOLD is OLD !!

I don't know what’s the problem with the Easter mindset. Why are they so stuck to Gold as the most prized possession throughout their lives and for generations to come. In films, dramas, and real lives u keep hearing these phrases

Husband to wife:  Main apni bike baich dunga jub tak job nhe milti. Lekin tum apni mangni ka locket mut baichna”

Male child to mother: Amma main perhai k baad extra tuition day lunga per tum apna zewar mut baichna.

Mother to girl child:  “main logon k kepray silai kerk teray liay kuch jama ker lungi ,,, baki meri shadi ka zewar hay who tujhay dungi nishani main”


AAaaaARrrGGHuhHHhHHHH ! WTF !!
Oh yaar lets see it objectively in a different perspective.



Case 1: Bhai if your wife sells her locket you both can travel on bike, find a job , even buy a car AND make better jewellery later.

Case 2: if the mother sells off her gold, her son will have less to worry after those tiring university classes.  Even if he does a part-time job it will add to savings, on the other hand your gold just sits in the cupboard, while you toil and twist.


Case 3: Maa jee why are you working your old ,cramped bones and those God-gifted eyes to stitch clothes while you can sell off those sparkling pieces, invest in some business and make even better JAHEZ for ur daughter without spreading hands in front of anyone.


 I mean what's the EMO thingie with gold. A lot of things are traded on engagements, weddings , birth celebrations, but out of these only GOLD is kept as NISHANI (oh GOD why) . Why can't we keep some clothes or pics or some artificial piece. Afterall it is about reminiscence right?

What good does a piece or set of metal lend to your life other than hanging around your neck (or ear)  after making YOU work your bones and nerves to breaking point? Those tears associated with gold sets being given away, the 'ehsaan' part of trading gold for something, making it all a BIG deal and momentous human (read womanly) sacrifice?

 Array yaar invest in something worthwhile, get your own roof above your head by investing against gold and enjoy your old age with constant investment return instead of watching your daughters and Bahoos wear it and thinking of moving u out of the house sinceyo u have nothing of your own ?

Moral : Gold is Old my womenfolks. Be proud to trade it for your hubby’s job or son’s education or even installments for your new home. You can make a lot more gold anytime in life, but the chance of investment knocks once only. *adios*


Saturday, April 7, 2012

Asking your man to do something!

How to ask your man to do something for you without putting a dent on his ego? Hmmm.. tough one right? I know those of you who googled it are probably married ones wid a lazy ***** of a husband (ya i know at least when he is acting tired u do feel like abusing him silently) while others who have been in a long term relationship where the dewy eyed beginning has long evaporated face the same prob.
(Once again i give a deduced understanding below of "Men are from Mars" by Dr. John Grey )

Woman often complain that men have lost their gentlemanly ways and don't do anything when asked -not even their fair share of work like laundry, dishwashing, room cleaning etc. Usually women themselves have relieved their men of this responsibility. We take pride in giving him everything on the plate, spoon feeding them. This is our way of showing love. Do I need to tell u guys again to only give as much as you know you can receive? I cannot emphasize more the importance of it.

So well all you have to do is change the wording of how you put it before him.
Like instead of saying "Can you please remove the wet towel from the bed?"
You can put it this way
"Will you please remove the wet towel from the bed?"

Yes. I know you think I m fooling around. How can a mere exchange of interrogatives change the way he behaves to your plea? Actually men like to think that they CAN do any and everything. Ofcourse they CAN remove the towel. do you doubt them?? But why on earth should they do it it at your command? But when you show that you KNOW they can do it but are 'requesting' them as if you are asking their permission as 'will you' then it changes the way their mind perceives it *hmmm..so she really needs me to do it out of my own will. It's upto me to do it or not. Fine no harm in helping dis girl!*


Well, it's fairly easy to understand it when i put a very important quotation in reverse order. Think of a man proposing you  -----
"Will you marry me?"  (Ahh..the blush on your face)
And imagine him asking you this way
"Can you marry me?"
(Whoa..wat was dat? You jerked away)

Ofcourse you can marry him but asking it in a 'permission granting' manner makes all the difference in the world. doesn't it?Try it sometime in other instances when you want him to listen to you,but make sure you know he is not in his mood swing.

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Saturday, March 3, 2012

Do u create ur own ditch?

For any girl the key to less tears and more fulfillment in any relationship is to 'expect less'. Believe u me men sniff 'expectations'  a mile away and run from it as if they have read 'danger ahead' sign !!

Now how do you expect less? Just how?  You wait for his call,you make him meals, u wash his laundry, u buy him presents, u don't eat/go out widout him, u cancel your plans with your friends just for him, u wake up late nights to talk to him..right?? (and this goes for both married and unmarried couples)..well STOP DOING ALL THAT!!
 or cut it to half....
 or else make sure he does all dat for u as well. Period!

See don't create a ditch for yourself.
It might be that instead of him ditching u somewhere along the line u created the ditch urself. Women who expect more come across as needy and i dun need to tell u witty girlies how a needy (read run away fast) woman appears to the MAN-kind!!

If he can't cut on his meetings with male friends, if he doesn't ask u again about ur health when u were sick, if he can't wake up at nights coz he is too tired then so should not you. In one way i wouldn't call this rude. Trust me. Some men won't even notice if u din't give any of the above 'angelic favours'. Don't be a real devil, but please stop being a fragile, naive angel.

Give as much as u KNOW he can give back. Once he fails to reciprocate retrace ur steps and go to square one. That way u will have a lot less expectations from him which would result in less arguments and less resentment and more love. Resentment eats up love alive. People may even resent the other person while making love esp when they feel they r being used as objects instead of human and as soon as the 'moment' will pass their feelings will be forgotten! So keep the resentment out . You will have to try hard for it initially. Hmmm..what did you say? You don't resent him?? Ok then tell me will u b ok if he forgets to wish u on ur birthday , ur date anniversary, the Valentine day?? This is how women UNKNOWINGLY expect more and allow resentment to be built and ruin the relationship!

Once you stop rendering him favours or being super-caring machine for him then if by chance he cancels his night out wid the boys just for you it would be a 'nice surprise' for you instead of  'Oh i did just the same for him,,so he owes it to me'...You will be thankful to him instead of seeing it as an even-out situation. Do less so you expect less and enjoy more each time he makes a tiny effort. Create instances so you can be thankful to him instead of demanding. See the difference??

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