After behavioral tendencies and ego another factor is CHANGE! If you as a woman don’t like shocks and can really take your lover as he is then it can be heavenly. He smokes, he utters abuses, his grammar is weak, he is too much into sports, he loves his best friend, he doesn’t change clothes too often, he wastes money, WHATEVER it is –and I do mean “whatever”, don’t try to change it. In case he has already tried to change DON'T think it will last forever i.e. don’t take it for granted.
Tell me did u change for him? Will u leave your best friend forever? Just wait for the first fight with him and u will go running to the phone to call your best gal !! Will u stop listening to old sad songs, or watch romantic movies? Would u stop wearing high heels and that gaudy jewelry or those sexy clothes that make u look attractive? Did I hear a NO?? Well then y should he change? Even if u do give up one of your patterns u would feel PUSHED. You wouldn’t feel like yourself anymore, but an object that has been programmed and this would give way to resentment slowly. It’s still easy for a woman to adjust and adapt- we are born this way- but for men it’s just a frenzy of your attraction which commands him to change. As soon as he has YOU for good he would change back or otherwise lie to u about not sneak-peaking into his bad habits- which includes making online girlfriends and watching porn!