EGO n MAN !!!

HAPPIEEE BIRTHDAY TO MY BLOG .....BEEN ONE YEAR..WOWWW!!!!

So today  I decide to focus on the original manifesto of my blog- relationships!

This time I would like to delve and dive into the second nature of men-EGO. Yes!!

You may find men who say that they are humble, self-ascertained, respectful beings; who don't like to impose things and even prove so, but how can these 2 words part? Man and his EGO! It’s also true that we women cannot bear a man without his ego , the only solace lies in knowing that he will always have one- it may be submerged, even he may not know about , but it is  there all along.

The FIRST TYPE of men takes the ordinary route of coming down strongly on women, ordering around, shouting, beating, hurting and enjoying it all- most of the modern day women like us have not see such beasts. Thank God!

The SECOND TYPE is one who hides behind “possessiveness” to suffocate women. They would charm you to the hilt during the courtship period –buying you roses, gifts, perfumes, taking you to exotic dates in expensive places and all- and then they want a return. I wouldn’t say it will always be sexual, but at least physical want is their top priority. They want you to give your hand in there, hug, and just go along with the rhythm- with some limits ofcourse. The EGO comes in when you say No to any of their demands. I m still not talking about the physical ones; just that you should ask their permission when going out, meeting your female/male friends, putting up certain pics on your social media accounts, going to the gym, weddings, parties, eating, sleeping, breathing- everything seems to be ‘watched and monitored’ and you feel suffocated. EGO again. That’s not love . That’s bull sh** !! Even if they know that you are trustworthy they would still ask you that why did you go out or talked with your male friends. The same ‘open minded’ person who was sooo persuasive to talk to you, take you out on dates (being a male himself), enjoyed your singing and dancing activities suddenly becomes the typical man who wants to pull your strings and make you a puppet.

Then there’s the THIRD TYPE who would never impose anything on you, enjoying in your glory, your laughter, your sense of humor, your interests, your friends everything!!! The point is they want the same things for themselves- just a bit more OPENLY. You are not INVITED to ask them to cut down the list of their girlfriends, their bad habits, disorganized lifestyle and the likes. Ego comes in when you think they are the best for you and suddenly you get to know that they are not ready to be committed. Their EGO lies in making women fall for their charm, their devil-may-care nature, their flirty attitude and most of all their innocent exclamation of ‘I din’t mean it THAT way’ when every look, word and action of theirs shouted out aloud ‘I m the ONE for you’. As soon as they know that a girl is falling for them, the charm wears out. The satisfaction has been granted and a ‘casual friendship’ attitude prevails. Everything from home worries to finances to not-being-ready to ‘living for a better cause’ comes up and you don’t know why you even got started.

Seriously, No matter how much clever a man thinks himself to be he really doesn’t know. Yes, he doesn’t. It’s his EGO which makes him let go of the most precious people in his life and then his life gets all screwed up again and again. For one little hindrance in life they give up the love of their life and to satisfy their EGO they build up a wall of excuses that they would never climb. Excuses which, in their mind, are respect, self-discipline, family values, and other things. Men have ego as overblown and sensitive as a balloon. The more inflated it is the more near it is to getting burst! And this is what they fear. To avoid a burst- to avoid a blame upon them- they have this wall of excuses that has nothing to do with them, but with people and circumstances that are uncontrollable.

When they know that they would receive rejection, only then their EGO is down. They would do anything to become acceptable. Once they get the ‘acceptance’ the charm wears off again. There’s nothing left. It’s easy for them to say that they ‘never thought of it’ although all the while everything they would do would be dripped in ‘hints’.
They just DON’T accept things.
Accepting their emotional side is also one huge bit of EGO SACRIFICE.
Sometimes it is true. They can have the wildest imagination, but they never imagine anything practical. They would think of  fun-filled rides, dining outs, exotic moments, hiking on mountains, scuba-diving and all but they don’t know who will they do it with and what to do when it all has happened! Thinking about future is just too much for them b/c in future they will have a wife and kids and responsibilities and their EGO will never be nurtured like before. Perhaps, that’s why settling down seems like a NIGHTMARE to them. 

No EGO- no MAN!!

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