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So once again I traverse the deep seas of my innate passion that at times submerges itself beneath a calm n naive facade but is raging n thrashing in the realm of my heart !! And so the mystery of Catgirl unfolds once again to all who are still mesmerized by my perseverance and many more who are yet to be in awe of it !! Catgirl working undercover as a teacher N Blogger henceforth pronounces herself a hard-core feminist !!! A girl out to protect the "woman-cause' in the world of self-loving male; A girl who would do anything she is capable of to restore the image of women which has been tarnished, even in the modern society ! Catgirl Strikes again !!! (my logo since 12 years)

Thursday, February 2, 2012

Catch A Match!


I am recently going through a match making process –rigorously and religiously- with me being presented as a trophy ready to be won. AH! Dat was just to boost up my morale. I’m not sure what number of subcontinental population will be viewing my article, but those who are would know precisely what a sarcastic comment that was. Indeed a pun at all the girls being presented before prospective suitors –mostly to be not given another look. The phone call never comes as they say.

I’m not sure if guys go through the same process. The problem is the groom-judging scenario comes after the girl has been selected. Plus it is said that a man is judged by his earning potential and not by his looks or age ‘mard kabhi bhoora naheen hota’ *eyes rolling*. I’m sure very few men have gone through rejection based on their ability to provide for the bride-to-be. e.g. a good house (preferable owned , regular monthly income, nuclear family system, own car, no dependency burden of other family members, good designation, preferably settled abroad and the list goes on). But since the girl is judged first, the depression and the underlying insult comes sooner and more explicitly as the whole family waits for the ‘hum soch ker jawab daingay’ phone call. I’m sure if a girl is chosen and the family finds the boy not up to their financial standards they would also backout and the guy would feel the same insult as a girl does! After all it is pretty demeaning to be judged and rejected on your monthly  income which depends on you capabilities both mentally and physically!

I have shown both sides of the picture this time unlike other articles that display only the girl’s sides. No doubt that IS the truth that a girl suffers more b/c by the time she is chosen she has age working AGAINST her and even if the boy is below standard financially or in looks the parents are forced to be in a compromising situation.

'Catch A Match' Cafe
Now coming to the title of this article. In my imagination there is a solution. I feel that all this superficial judgment of looks and money makes the soulmate activity pretty soul-less. You know devoid of spirituality, just robotic! Where are the values, the meeting of eyes, the beating of hearts, the feeling of he’/she being the ONE? In our society it is considered more sane to trample each other’s dignity and crush the parents’ hopes than to arrange for a suitable meeting environment for the couple who indeed should talk to each other before deciding to live together for a lifetime

The title of this article ‘CATCH A MATCH’ is for a café -like setting where the parents arrange for the guy and girl to meet each other in friendly circumstances and discover each other. The café owners should make sure that they provide respectable privacy to the couple and they know the purpose of this meeting such that both families are ensured of a ‘Halal meeting’ of the prospective couple. A lot of tension would be resolved this way on both sides. Trust me if marriage bureaus start running a cafe like this they would have entries by the minute and neither the girl or guy nor their families would ever feel there was any confusion, misunderstanding, and the oh-so-clichéd ‘actually aap hamrai baat ka maqsad naheen samjhay…’

Ah I really wish it could be done that way. Would be every girl’s dream who goes through the cumbersome process of dressing up, going to parlor, rehearsing interview questions and answers in her mind and many other things. Plus it won't be anything like dating . The guy would also be relived to ask the questions that matter to him and which he cannot ask through his parents. In the process if either girl or guy has some personal issues like having a lover already, some health problem, a unique or eccentric thought process they can convey it to the other then there can be a very amicable turning down of proposal where the girl would feel dignified ! 

p.s. Waiting for the response of girls who were and are going through this phase. 

17 comments:

♥●• İzdihër •●♥ said...

I am going through this rishta thing and as more days are passing more it is hurting me.So yeah I can relate to this.
Good .Very very good post.

Sorry I did not get much time to visit you.

Following you.

Care to follow back ?

CATGIRL !! said...

Hey thank u soo much,,is thsi ur real name?? is it Arabic?? where do u live btw??

CATGIRL !! said...

izdiher: i checked ur profile..i cant see nay of ur blog cz of ur privacy settings. plz gimme ur blog link//

♥●• İzdihër •●♥ said...

Welcome :)
But my blog ain't a pvt or something;)

http://izdiher.blogspot.com/



Oh I forget to say your pic is way cute .

Ms Nyx said...

Hey pretty lady!

My sister went thru this. And she's so pretty and everything but was 'turned down' by a jerk who apparently thinks she didn't talk much. I mean this is crazy but then his loss ;)

CATGIRL !! said...

Ms Nyx: after seeing u i can bet ur sis is also pretty....his loss really ... all such MEAN guys shud themselves get a real bad rejection in life!!

Alive said...

U r somewhat right, but i think girls have equal rights to turn down a guy. So, here we r equal. Arranged marraiges follow the pattern as u explained but vary people to people. I suggest, parents should initiate the trouble and then let the boy and girl decide it between them. Of course with all the control measures in place. Personally, i dont support arranged marraiges but still they work!!

CATGIRL !! said...

@Alive: thank u so much for ur comment. i agree wid u . i don't want arrange marriage for myself but kya ker saktay hain...
n thanks for being a follower!

Alive said...

@Catgirl. I think males should take a stand here. Once the problem(Rishtay Ki Baat) starts between two families,the main problem is that we dont peep inside us and want to have everything perfect in our better half. In my opinion and its strictly Mine : Seerat comes first, Surat comes second and then comes the family status(sharafat). And its highly un manly to turn down a lady on some stupid reason other than the ones i mentioned above. Marraige is a sacred relationship, we should not turn it into a shanakht parade for the poor girls.

Alive said...

@Catgirl. I think males should take a stand here. Once the problem(Rishtay Ki Baat) starts between two families,the main problem is that we dont peep inside us and want to have everything perfect in our better half. In my opinion and its strictly Mine : Seerat comes first, Surat comes second and then comes the family status(sharafat). And its highly un manly to turn down a lady on some stupid reason other than the ones i mentioned above. Marraige is a sacred relationship, we should not turn it into a shanakht parade for the poor girls.

Saeed said...

Halal dating at cafe "Catch a Match". That would be something.

CATGIRL !! said...

@Alive: i hope we all hav teh guts n the opportunity to choose our spouse via seerat n then worldly possessions.AMEEN


@saeed: i wish thsi dream cud materialize by my efforts or someone else's !!

Alive said...

Ameen! And 'Catch A Match Cafe' Halaal dating sounds a good idea

Hamza Bin Ladin said...

Hii! Thanks for that comment on my blog. Actually we were going to have a meet-up soon. You can mail me at

TeenageMutiny@hotmail.com

Anees Ahmed said...

Your portrayal is so true sadly...I strongly dislike/detest how parents put pressure on daughters in our Indo-Pak culture and treat their own daughters as some prize to give away, etc.

The cafe idea is brilliant! :-)

The guy should make sure that there is no pressure from his side from the start - regardless of what her parents may be telling her and that a comfortable environment or at least the general vibe is one that she can feel secure in and not just some tool presented like a beauty queen at a pageant.

Despite the worldly issues of income etc, both are equal partners in the potential union, so during the process, it should be treated as such - my two cents on the top of my head.

CATGIRL !! said...

HEY Doc bro..so happy to see u hit my blog whenever u get time..
n thanks for ur nice comments. have u gotten engaged? when r u getting married?

Anees Ahmed said...

haha, no not engaged. Don't think it is going to work out between me and earlier-mentioned KHI girl. I could write you an essay as to why...in short - parents pressure on daughter to work, earn, take care of younger siblings..nahin ney kaha woh, magar haan bhi nahin. Hum dono ke paas boht kaam hai, mey Amreekan board exams ka pehla hisa ke thayari karaha hoon (is cheez mein, woh mujse aagi hai..dusra hisa (jo mein do parts hain) ka thayari woh karahi hai...Allah Malik hai...magar patha nahin kya hoga hum dono ke saath. Baji ne bathayi boht pehle ke sirf thora chance tha...tho meyne kum expectations rakha...pyari, achi ladki tho hai...magar shay'd waqt ghalat hai us ke liye....

Lots of love,
Anees bhaya

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