"CATGIRL" -Yup! That's Me...!!
- CATGIRL !!
- So once again I traverse the deep seas of my innate passion that at times submerges itself beneath a calm n naive facade but is raging n thrashing in the realm of my heart !! And so the mystery of Catgirl unfolds once again to all who are still mesmerized by my perseverance and many more who are yet to be in awe of it !! Catgirl working undercover as a teacher N Blogger henceforth pronounces herself a hard-core feminist !!! A girl out to protect the "woman-cause' in the world of self-loving male; A girl who would do anything she is capable of to restore the image of women which has been tarnished, even in the modern society ! Catgirl Strikes again !!! (my logo since 12 years)
Saturday, March 3, 2012
Do u create ur own ditch?
Now how do you expect less? Just how? You wait for his call,you make him meals, u wash his laundry, u buy him presents, u don't eat/go out widout him, u cancel your plans with your friends just for him, u wake up late nights to talk to him..right?? (and this goes for both married and unmarried couples)..well STOP DOING ALL THAT!!
or cut it to half....
or else make sure he does all dat for u as well. Period!
See don't create a ditch for yourself.
It might be that instead of him ditching u somewhere along the line u created the ditch urself. Women who expect more come across as needy and i dun need to tell u witty girlies how a needy (read run away fast) woman appears to the MAN-kind!!
If he can't cut on his meetings with male friends, if he doesn't ask u again about ur health when u were sick, if he can't wake up at nights coz he is too tired then so should not you. In one way i wouldn't call this rude. Trust me. Some men won't even notice if u din't give any of the above 'angelic favours'. Don't be a real devil, but please stop being a fragile, naive angel.
Give as much as u KNOW he can give back. Once he fails to reciprocate retrace ur steps and go to square one. That way u will have a lot less expectations from him which would result in less arguments and less resentment and more love. Resentment eats up love alive. People may even resent the other person while making love esp when they feel they r being used as objects instead of human and as soon as the 'moment' will pass their feelings will be forgotten! So keep the resentment out . You will have to try hard for it initially. Hmmm..what did you say? You don't resent him?? Ok then tell me will u b ok if he forgets to wish u on ur birthday , ur date anniversary, the Valentine day?? This is how women UNKNOWINGLY expect more and allow resentment to be built and ruin the relationship!
Once you stop rendering him favours or being super-caring machine for him then if by chance he cancels his night out wid the boys just for you it would be a 'nice surprise' for you instead of 'Oh i did just the same for him,,so he owes it to me'...You will be thankful to him instead of seeing it as an even-out situation. Do less so you expect less and enjoy more each time he makes a tiny effort. Create instances so you can be thankful to him instead of demanding. See the difference??
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