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So once again I traverse the deep seas of my innate passion that at times submerges itself beneath a calm n naive facade but is raging n thrashing in the realm of my heart !! And so the mystery of Catgirl unfolds once again to all who are still mesmerized by my perseverance and many more who are yet to be in awe of it !! Catgirl working undercover as a teacher N Blogger henceforth pronounces herself a hard-core feminist !!! A girl out to protect the "woman-cause' in the world of self-loving male; A girl who would do anything she is capable of to restore the image of women which has been tarnished, even in the modern society ! Catgirl Strikes again !!! (my logo since 12 years)

Monday, January 9, 2012

Compromise- once again !

I want to immerse in this topic once again. ! Previous post is here.

There is NO perfect relationship, friendship or association in this world. Compromises and trade-offs are always there to strike any deal such that both parties benefit from it. You compromise a lot of your ego, sometimes even your self-respect, to get your dream job and stay at it- just like showbiz people, cricketers, and other celebrities pay for their fame. So why do people feel that any relationship in which there is a compromise is below par?

Actually people really start thinking that a relationship is ‘perfect’especially  in the beginning when the sparks are flying at full pace and love is at its peak. But as soon as the trial period of 3 months expires the faults become evident. It is then that people find their dreams shattered and feel ditched. Sometimes both parties get hurt just because of Ego wars. Even though heart break is difficult to counter in any situation, in an open relationship it’s still easy to walk out, but what happens if you are bound for life as in a husband and wife’s relationship?

If you have made up your mind that you won’t compromise then you would feel suffocated every day. In my opinion it’s always about 'Compromise' that makes you sail smoothly through a relationship journey, but you HAVE TO make up your mind about it. It’s about appreciating the differences and living them up. No matter how much you feel (with time) that it would have been heavenly if your better half had similar interests and tastes as yours, it’s practically just as boring to converse on similar things as it is irritating to listen to opposing ideas (from your partner of heterogeneous interests) all the times. Doing similar acts, and thinking alike means you would behave same in all situations- even in crisis. For example if both of you have a short temper and are egoistic your relationship is gonna fall prey to the first strike of lightning because neither party will bow down.

Similarly, if both of you have SAME ideas about enjoyment, thrills, dine-outs and how to spend night time, there won’t be much fun if you do the same routine month after month. Some fresh ideas would always add spice to the plate and that can only be if one of you is more outgoing and adventurous than the other. If from the beginning you are similar to the core you would seriously get bored of each other, there won’t be any arguments and certainly no kiss and makeup. Life would be so mundane. Once again I think that 2 people who are outgoing would also be counter-productive to each other’s ideas. It's obvious that if a couple is totally good or totally evil they will either bore or kill each other -respectively. 

So all of you out there who think having a perfect relationship means ‘being similar’, think again of what you are asking. When two personalities are different and bound to live their life together its always better that differences- sometimes glaring, stark ones- are there so you discover each other month after month, year after year and revel in the warmth of the new sunshine throughout your life J


Blue Pearl said...

You absolutely right about there being no such thing as a perfect relationship but the error everyone makes based (because of the much commercialised definition that developed in our head) is that we seem to search for it constantly and when do find ourselves in a ship (whether career or personal) we tend to run when there is any sign of problems. But if we keep running will we ever find perfect that relationship because like anything in life, practice makes perfect (close to perfect). I hope you well my dear darling. hugs and love:)

sameer said...

nice article, few things are very obvious,specially when it comes for some close relation, and at time i strongly believe word compromise is only there for saving the relations. i would also like to say compromise makes the relations perfect in most of the relationship. well done writer, nice article, enjoyed,

Jack said...


A very sensible post. In any relationship both need to have willingness to adjust which one may term as compromise. Ego is the foremost reasons for causing relationships to go sour. One should never be egoist but do keep self respect and not become a doormat. One of the basic principles for a relationship to be healthy, specially for married couples, is willingness to accept other as he or she is without forcing him or her to change but at the same time making efforts to overcome own shortcomings.

Take care

Anonymous said...

the question is, when and where the compromising stops ? what is the threshold or limits ?

sanaahamed said...

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