Why men withdraw their love for some time!

My topic today is the “Cave Behavior of Men”- Why men suddenly become silent and stop sharing!

The first 3 months in any relationship have been proven to be the best by all writers in the world. It is called the perfect phase. Both of you agree on many important (though broader only) aspects of life. You share fun times, adventures, a li’l secret from the past, and your desires to live a happy life together. Time flies by. You chat, talk on phone for hours into midnight. Love blossoms and you feel like screaming out aloud to the world that you have met your perfect man/woman!

Facebook status is updated with lovey-dovey messages, eating-out is common, and all ur girlfriends know about this guy.

And then the blossoming sun starts heating up when the initial 3 months pass by!

One fine day yo realize that your man is not sharing as much as he used to, he seems distant-though not rude- but indifferent to your questioning. Even if u put forth a problem of yours which would have normally engaged him in a conversation , he just utters syllables like "Ok”…"Hmm”.. "Will see”.. and You are aghast!
There r 2 ways how u THINK u should deal with it

1.          Ask him "Darling r u upset? Is your mood off because of me?”
2.      “Ok. Fine. If u don’t wanna tell just go to hell.!”

Problem is both approaches are wrong. Your guy is  trying to focus on some of his urgent problem and he needs time to go ‘into his cave’ and think about it. Do not push him, cajole him "plzz bugs bunny talk to me " or intimidate him  "if u won’t talk then…"  . And plz don’t think its because of you –if it really isn’t.

Men don’t like to share their problems coz it makes them feel vulnerable. Just like women like to discuss and share their problems men like to think about it alone. At those times he would be thankful to you if you can take care of yourself and stop being an emotional burden for him. Give him space. Do your own thing. Don’t pester him. No matter how Great a communication u had wid him in the past he will have his ‘cave days’. If u wud follow him into his cave insisting that he shares he can be very rude to you. It’s an old  tribe-women’s theme “Don’t follow him into the cave or u will get burnt by the dragon!”. For example, he might NOT want to say those things like “leave me alone” , “ why r u looking for trouble. I didn’t say anything”, “Just knock off” .. n blah blah…but he will say it!

So the best thing at these times is to really ‘leave him alone’. Don’t whine/complain and most of all don’t blame yourself. Call a girlfriend (but not to cry over his behavior), go to the parlor, listen to music and wait (at least 1 week) for him to come back to his normal self….
And then how to ask him what happened to his problem. I will tell u in my next post!

Oh n yes Don’t punish him for coming back by retaliating what he said to you. This might make him retreat into his cave for a longer period!

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Do you wan to know what to do when your man has mood problems?

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