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So once again I traverse the deep seas of my innate passion that at times submerges itself beneath a calm n naive facade but is raging n thrashing in the realm of my heart !! And so the mystery of Catgirl unfolds once again to all who are still mesmerized by my perseverance and many more who are yet to be in awe of it !! Catgirl working undercover as a teacher N Blogger henceforth pronounces herself a hard-core feminist !!! A girl out to protect the "woman-cause' in the world of self-loving male; A girl who would do anything she is capable of to restore the image of women which has been tarnished, even in the modern society ! Catgirl Strikes again !!! (my logo since 12 years)

Saturday, April 7, 2012

Asking your man to do something!

How to ask your man to do something for you without putting a dent on his ego? Hmmm.. tough one right? I know those of you who googled it are probably married ones wid a lazy ***** of a husband (ya i know at least when he is acting tired u do feel like abusing him silently) while others who have been in a long term relationship where the dewy eyed beginning has long evaporated face the same prob.
(Once again i give a deduced understanding below of "Men are from Mars" by Dr. John Grey )

Woman often complain that men have lost their gentlemanly ways and don't do anything when asked -not even their fair share of work like laundry, dishwashing, room cleaning etc. Usually women themselves have relieved their men of this responsibility. We take pride in giving him everything on the plate, spoon feeding them. This is our way of showing love. Do I need to tell u guys again to only give as much as you know you can receive? I cannot emphasize more the importance of it.

So well all you have to do is change the wording of how you put it before him.
Like instead of saying "Can you please remove the wet towel from the bed?"
You can put it this way
"Will you please remove the wet towel from the bed?"

Yes. I know you think I m fooling around. How can a mere exchange of interrogatives change the way he behaves to your plea? Actually men like to think that they CAN do any and everything. Ofcourse they CAN remove the towel. do you doubt them?? But why on earth should they do it it at your command? But when you show that you KNOW they can do it but are 'requesting' them as if you are asking their permission as 'will you' then it changes the way their mind perceives it *hmmm..so she really needs me to do it out of my own will. It's upto me to do it or not. Fine no harm in helping dis girl!*

Well, it's fairly easy to understand it when i put a very important quotation in reverse order. Think of a man proposing you  -----
"Will you marry me?"  (Ahh..the blush on your face)
And imagine him asking you this way
"Can you marry me?"
(Whoa..wat was dat? You jerked away)

Ofcourse you can marry him but asking it in a 'permission granting' manner makes all the difference in the world. doesn't it?Try it sometime in other instances when you want him to listen to you,but make sure you know he is not in his mood swing.

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Ahsan Khan said...

will you please accept it an appreciation the way you expressed youe ideas with good narration of words... stay blessed

Hamza Bin Ladin said...

Hey mail me your contacts. You are gonna have a meet-up soon.

Jack said...


Read all pending posts which give very sane advice, specially on on Being Self which is so true as being Positive will always lead to happiness & peace of mind.

Take care

Mishi said...

nosheen you surely have lot of knwldge about relationship..you should write a book about it ..will help many:)

Anonymous said...

I like this one! I'm already thinking of different ways to ask him different things lol

Tauqeer said...

Good post.

CATGIRL !! said...

@Ahsan khan:Thank you for your appreciation.

Thank you for your wishes Jack uncle :-))

Mishi: haan yaar sach main i wish i cud write a book on it??
Thankx Ms.nyx ans Tauqeer!!

Muslim Baby Names said...

Hehe, this good, very good work catgirl.

Ioana-Carmen said...

So stylish! follow each other sweetie?:X


Kiran Ashraf said...

Women make themselves so vulnerable!! do whtever their man wants jus so tht he can stay. And when they take advantage of it..we whine.

v well-written :)

sulagna ™ said...

WOW girl you sure do know a lot..must appreciate what you wrote and honestly for a minute i was left wonderign what to do, when i face such situations..be yourself is the best advice !

Jack said...


This is to wish you MANY MANY HAPPY RETURNS OF THE DAY. MAY ALL YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE. Have all the fun today and always. Wish I could send an e-card!

Take care

CATGIRL !! said...

awww..thank uuu JACK...sooo nice of u to wish me here....i feel greattt!!

well u can send me an ecard


Anonymous said...


Bechara Sa said...

Catgirl , thats really nice advice yo. You could become the modern day Dr Phil of the blog world some day. Hang in there. Regards.

CATGIRL !! said...

aww..thank u bechara sa ..hehehe!!

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